What do you think? There are many people out there that enjoy being single. And, not for reasons that you would think. It isn’t that they have so much baggage that they could sink a ship. Or they just can’t commit.

Times have changed and so have the views of not wanting to run to the alter or settle down. I have a couple friends that say their life is fulfilled. I don’t think you are truly alone if you have a good circle of friends and family. If you are not planning on having children is one reason people stay single.

These days a lot of men and women 35 and older find a way to get their needs met. Some just want a friend with benefits. There is so much judgement on this subject that really makes me laugh. It’s better than being with someone that you have no interest in a future with but enjoy the time you spend together. It is a mutual choice and it works for some.

Women make just as much as men now and can take care of themselves. I say good for you! And for men who don’t want a family and are happy being single the same goes for you. When I think of being old I have to say I picture myself hanging out with my girlfriends. My friends and I joke about it but it could happen if we out live our men.

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None of us are perfect and at times our evil side comes out and there is no turning back. I for one am a very calm person and it takes a great deal to get me mad. When in the middle of a disagreement it can be very hard to just breath and not react. Most of the time when you fight with someone it isn’t even about the issue at hand. It could be a built up of tension from something that happened yesterday.

If you get in a heated conversation and each of you feels the need to have the last word someone needs to walk away. You can walk outside pissed off and calm down or go for a drive. Then when you’re ready ask the person to take a walk and talk. The funny thing is what you’re really fighting about will not be the same for both of you.

What is most important is to give each other space. I used to want to resolve the issue right away and now I just let it be. I even let it go most of the time and know this is just how the other person is and that is not my problem nor do I need to feel the need to change their mind.

Learn from the fight and try and gain a better understanding of where the other person is coming from. And, think about your own behavior and what changes you can make.

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As a lot of my readers have noticed I have not been blogging to much in the past year. I had breast cancer and I’m happy to say I’m cancer-free, my hair is back and so am I. My goal is to get my coaching and consulting going again.

So I have made the promise to myself that as of September 1st I will blog everyday. So keep the emails coming and look forward to some exciting changes coming. It’s been a strange ride learning to deal with new boobs but I’ll be kicking it when I’m 90 with the best boobs around.

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Is this true? My thoughts on this subject are simple. Unless, you have taken steps to figure out why you cheat it will most likely happen again. I just heard a story about a women in her 70’s who remarried her husband after 17 years of being divorced. He cheated on her, then his second wife and lastly her once again. Everyone is calling the man a total jerk. I agree but let’s be honest here, you really thought it wouldn’t happen again?

The matters of the heart are risky so don’t let anyone fool you. It’s a gamble and if you’re lucky your heart will not get broken. Better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I totally believe this and in life it is all about taking risks and putting yourself out there. Just be smart about your choices. Be honest with yourself and above all and honor your inner voice. It will guide you if you choose to follow.

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If you’re in a relationship that is going through a tough time and on the edge of breaking up try a quiet vacation. It could just be a way to fall in love all over again. Yes, it is a risk but if you both want to save the relationship it is worth it. Love doesn’t come easy nor does the hard times over the years.

We each go through stressful times and it can be a balancing act in a way. If you are able to not take on the other’s mood and stay centered it’s the only way to cope. Not everyone (mostly men) will not even consider going to couples therapy. Whether therapy gets you closer or ends the relationship it is a great coping tool. So I say going on a little vacation and see where it leads. And of course a relationship coach is a smart way to go.

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If you want to date you will need to put time and energy into it. If you’re not willing to put any effort into finding TRUE love it will never happen. Time and time again people want to work with a dating coach but think there is magic involved. I don’t have a pill to prescribe or a trick to tell you. What I do provide is straight forward, honest and fun approach to breaking old patterns. If the area of relationships and love are not getting you to your end result there is a reason.

You must weed out all the negative thoughts and inner talk that prevents you from being who you really are. No one will love you if you don’t love yourself first. This is work people and I challenge you to step up to the plate and take a swing. Practice makes perfect but sometimes you need a little help. Don’t you want to be the best that you can? I do and I work on this each and everyday. There is something to learn from each interaction and experience.

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No wonder so many single people are totally frustrated with online dating. People wink each other but never write. Or then keep checking out your profile and still don’t write you. I recall when I was on match.com I wouldn’t even bother with anyone that winked me instead of writing. Not the man I want to be introduced too.

Is it because they are afraid of rejections and if so get over it. Why pay money to join if the only thing you do is look? So many women complain about the men on match.com. I say be a man and email the women. I understand if you happen to shy and have a hard time putting yourself out there. But, there comes a time when you must stop living in fear.

Most people are online for the same reason and that is to meet their ideal partner. But, there are people that are just looking to hook up for the night or are married. If you don’t take risks you will never get to the end result.

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Clients and friends ask why do people lie who you meet online. I know you even write that you’re looking for a honest soul and still they just lie anyway. The answer is they are lacking self confidence and don’t believe in themselves. Lying is a way of covering up who they really are. Once someone starts lying it’s hard for them to stop unless they are ready to deal with their own issues. Lying to save the other person from getting their feelings hurt is a bunch of crap.

There is a way to say the truth without running over the person’s heart. Be kind and upfront and you will be amazed at how much the other person will respect you in the end. No one wants rejection but we can handle it. My advice is if you meet someone take your time to get to know them. The truth is hard to hide but it can take a little time to really get to know the inner working of one’s mind. Treat others how you want to be treated and you will be better off.

We all want to fall in love but maybe just don’t want so bad that you miss all the signs that this person is not the one. I have been there too so I’m not saying it is easy. Love and Like yourself and others will be drawn to you.

We want to meet someone and fall in love to get off the dating sites. Have faith and hope the right and honest person is out there along with

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Did you know now you can meet someone via your cell phone? Match will be launching this service in the future. My guess is this is more for the 20 something singles. If anyone has tried this service please provide feedback.

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There is no rule written in stone when it comes to how many dates should you have before sleeping with someone. I hear some men say there is a 3 to 5 date rule. It is all a personal preference but make sure you can handle not getting a call or date from the person you slept with too soon. Women need to become warriors that are strong and confident. A warrior knows when to go into battle and when to sit back and wait for the best outcome.

I have been there myself years ago and learned the same lessons as you. When I was single and online I would even write in my profile that if your looking for a hook up PLEASE just pass on by. I got so tired of the game. The men were so into me until around the 3rd date when I wouldn’t have sex and vanished into the night never to be heard from again. I was very clear that I was looking for my last love and nothing less.

Your self esteem and confidence can be affected by sleeping with someone and then never hearing from them again. So think before your leap and if someone is really interested in you they WILL wait.

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